Hello, Clark Gardens friends!
We have been BUSY with our wonderful FALL brides and what beautiful weddings we have seen!
I want to share my thoughts on the idea of the PERFECT wedding. Everyone wants a wedding to be perfect and as a young woman, newlywed, and wedding coordinator, I get that. But sometimes our idea of "perfect" might not be very realistic. Every wedding is its own creature with many moving parts and there are some things you just can't plan for. Sometimes you have to be flexible. Sometimes you just gotta roll with the punches.
Many brides, mothers of brides, maids of honor and others lose sight of the purpose of the wedding. This is an event to celebrate your commitment and yet, time after time I see people get so wrapped up in the details that they forget the big picture. You're here to get married and have fun!
If some of the butterflies don't fly- you're still married.
If the ring bearer can't stop screaming long enough to make it down the aisle- you're still married!
If a 5 year old guest sticks his hands in the chocolate fountain and wipes them all over the church walls- you are still married.
(All true stories, by the way. Even the chocolate fountain.)
On my wedding day I told my mom, best friend, and husband, "No matter what happens today, if we have fun and leave married, today will be a success." And let me tell you: our wedding was perfect for us, but by no means perfect.
- The venue double-booked my dressing room, so I got dressed in my parents' hotel room.
- 15 minutes before the ceremony I realized that I forgot to put on deodorant. Luckily my mom had some in her purse.
- The photo booth didn't bring the giant sunglasses I wanted, but everyone else loved it!
Here's the best wedding imperfection: Our first-look photo session and family photos took so long that our guests started arriving while I'm on stage trying to stay calm for the camera. Eventually enough people had already seen me in my dress that there was no sense in hiding... So there I was, donned in ivory and lace, standing at the door greeting every guest with a hug. They looked confused, like they were breaking rules by seeing me and I'm sure some worried they had missed the wedding! But when something went wrong, we rolled with it.
I will say this about greeting at my own wedding: It was FUN! And it ensured that I said "Welcome!" and "Thank you for coming!" to all 194 people. There were no rules, no traditions, and no bad omens for our marriage.
So my best advice to brides is this: Don't sweat the small stuff. Get married and have fun!...
The rest just makes a good story ;)
Until next time- Chelsea